responding to cool Erika Awakening talk at relationship convention

Re: http://www.the21convention.com/2009/09/08/erika-awakening-t21c-2009/

[just copying/pasting what I had commented on that site:]
[ The talk was about limiting beliefs people have which cause them problems with relationships and with their lives in general]

I completely felt the the pink shirt guy's anxiety too. He was layering fake comedy on top of it constantly. When Erika referred to him trying to pick her up he went silent for a while and his face was stunned. He kept on modifying his facial expressions on command and his body was shifting constantly. Very nervous he was.


This stuff is not magic by the way. Check out Richard Dawkin's The Selfish Gene or Steven Pinker's How The Mind Works. It is clear within the field of evolutionary psychology that people are built to both be good at detecting cheaters/liars ( Erika says they have incongruence ) and also interestingly a game theory analysis of evolution says that printing the emotions all over your face is 'evolutionarily stable'.

That basically means that genes for lying well and not being able to tell apart liars didn't survive. The why takes longer to explain. ( And there are exceptions ). Yes I know you probably think that genes for being a good lier should survive, but they don't basically because cheaters cheat each other, while non cheaters thrive together sort of ( it is more complicated ) .


Oh and I think that Emotional Freedom Technique probably works because it forces you to focus on exactly what you are saying through consistent distraction. And because emotions are actually just "shortcut memories", you can neurally rewire your associative memory with the new statements you say. It works proportionally to how often you do it, because human memory works using 'weights' (practice/reinforcement).

AFC Adam mentioned in his video here that he also heard tapping is a 'hard-wired' distraction technique, but he uses it to get into other people's conversations.

Yep, sorry no magic. This stuff has been entering the mainstream during the past decade or so. Also check out Paul Eckman's research on face/emotion studies.